Valentine’s Day, otherwise known as Single Awareness Day
is upon us. Better start crying because
you’re single…NOT! There is nothing
wrong with being single. I repeat…there is nothing wrong with being single. The rest of the year - your friends who are
married or in relationships will want to live vicariously through you because
you are single and “free”.
All of us would love to have someone special to celebrate
Valentine’s Day with. The key words are
someone special. Many of us just have
not met the right person. This in no
way makes you less than. It just means
it’s not your time. Timing is
everything. Think about where you were a
few months ago or a year ago. Do you
think you would have recognized “the one” if they presented themselves? In my case I know I wouldn’t have. I was closed off, focusing on all the wrong things/people
and didn’t trust my gut. If you don’t
trust yourself; how can you expect to trust someone else?
Whether you’ve been single for a long time or newly
single I encourage you to do something that brings you joy on and around this
day. If you’re having fun – you’re less
likely to think about what the day represents.
You are more than your dating status.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Single is not a disease. The cure for the “Cupid Blues” is being happy
and having fun. Buy yourself some flowers
and chocolates. Go have an amazing meal
somewhere with friends/family.
If you are actively looking to be in a relationship –
think about what you’re doing and where you’re going. Change things up. Try a new dating app. Go to a new place with your wing person. Go to a new place by yourself and stay off
your phone! Strike up conversations with
people. I’ve met some of the coolest people
just sitting at the bar. No expectations,
no preconceived notions, just pure laid back conversation. We live on our phones and computers these
days – hone your conversation skills.
If you’re on a dating sabbatical – keep doing what you’re
doing. When you’re ready to share your
life with someone, everything will fall into place. Why?
Because the timing will be right.
What if it doesn’t happen right away?
Well then it’s not the right time.
It’s not just about when your time is right but it’s when the timing for
both of you is right. Otherwise it will
never work. I saw a quote a while back that resonated with me.
“If you want to make God laugh; tell Him
your plans.”
You only live once.
Make the most of it. Travel, fall
in love, find your passion and chase your dreams. Never be defined by your status. You are more than. Read it again and this time with
feeling. YOU ARE MORE THAN. No more crying and feeling sorry for yourself
because you’re single. Don’t you realize
how lucky you are? Your love story is
still being written. Enjoy the journey.
