How to Combat the Cupid Blues?

Let’s face it.  There’s never an easy time to be single; no matter how much you may enjoy being single.  We are always asked “why don’t you have a boyfriend/girlfriend” or “when are you going to settle down already”.  As if we ourselves are in control of this.  People who are in relationships or married often treat their single friends like they’ve got some kind of disease and the only cure is to be in a relationship.

We’re not even fully over the Christmas holidays and every store is shoving Valentine’s Day down our throats.  How about letting us catch our breath from the holidays before you force us into the next holiday!  From bears to flowers & chocolates to jewelry…we become like vacuums just trying to suck it all up because we NEED all this stuff to truly feel loved.  Guess what, STUFF doesn’t equal LOVE.

People who are in relationships should be showing each other how much they love each other all year long with their actions.  Not just one day a year when roses suddenly cost a small fortune.  If you’re single and looking to meet someone – it’s ok to wish you had someone or to hope that you meet someone to spend Valentine’s Day with.  Just don’t let it consume you or make you feel bad for not having that someone special.  Look around you – your friends/family that’s who makes you special.  Not the idea in your head of some perfect guy or girl.  A good time is not defined by where you go but who you go with.  Plan a fun night out with your friends or host your friends at your place and do a movie night.  Just don’t sit there crying into a pint of Ben & Jerry’s.  It’s not a good look at any age.  No offense, Ben & Jerry – you’re great but tears just ruin the flavor. 

Go out to that new restaurant/bar that you’ve been waiting to check out.  What are you waiting for?  Ladies, put on an outfit that makes you feel great, wear some red lipstick and really put yourself out there.  Trust me…some red lipstick does wonders for confidence…I don’t know why but when I throw on a cute outfit and top off the look with some red lipstick, I am UNSTOPPABLE.  You never know who you might meet.  If you’re going out with a large group – fan out a bit.  Don’t look closed off.  It’s intimidating for any man to walk up to a group of women – let alone a group that looks like they only want to talk to each other.  It’s like giving the Heisman without actually doing the move.  You’re welcome guys for the football reference!

Don’t worry about being single on Valentine’s Day.  You’ve got the rest of the year to worry about that.  Just kidding!  It’s far better to be single than to be in a bad relationship.  So go out, smile and most of all HAVE FUN!