New Year...New You?

Happy New Year Everyone!  I figured before we delve back into the world of relationship and dating blogs, I thought it might be nice to look at everyone’s obsessions with “RESOLUTIONS” & “REINVENTION”.  It's important to take a look inward before you commit to making outward changes.  Small changes in thinking can go a long way in making big changes in your life.

How many of us have said:

·         This is the year I get fit.

·         This is the year I’m going to travel.

·         This is the year I’m going to ..........

Why do we do this to ourselves?  If you want to get fit; that’s wonderful but why do you have to wait until the New Year rolls around to commit to it?  When you make a commitment to yourself that you would like to change – get moving.  Join the gym, do the videos, make better choices.  Don’t put it off – as Nike says…Just Do It!  Those of us who go to the gym have already seen how crowded the gyms have been the past couple weeks and it’s already getting easy to find parking and machines.  Resolutions are hard to keep if you're not ready to really commit to the them.

I can’t even begin to list how many times I have heard – New Year…New Me!  As a friend, I can’t help but wonder – what’s so bad about the “old” you?  I think you’re pretty great.  It’s part of the reason we’re friends in the first place.  Those of you have followed my blogs; you’ve come to know that I am all for growing, evolving, and learning.  A “new you” is just not necessary.  Just be YOU 2.0.  Having goals is great.  Reaching them won’t happen overnight.  Start with some short term and long term goals.  This will help you stay on course.  Maybe even enlist the help of a friend or family member to help hold you accountable for those goals.

New You?  Think about what that really means.  Why do you feel you want to be a “New You”?  Think about what you want to change and why.  Also, don’t forget to recognize the qualities you really love about yourself.  Often, we focus on what we want to change and we completely ignore what makes each of us so special.  Maybe by focusing more on the things you love about yourself and bringing those qualities to the forefront of your thinking – the things you feel you should change will actually work themselves out.

When you do an update on your cell phone…it doesn’t suddenly become a new phone.  It’s just that you’re now using an updated version with new features.  This is how you should view your own personal growth.  There’s no set timeline of when the internal updates happen to you.  It’s done whenever you’re truly ready to make the changes and the time is right.  Commit to being a better you and work at it throughout the year.  I am better today than I was yesterday but I am not as good as I will be tomorrow.

Looking forward to continuing our journey of growth and happiness in 2017!  We are all on a quest for greatness.  Only you know what “greatness” means to you.  Figure it out and work to achieve it.